Loving Yourself - continued
Self-hatred is such a heavy burden, and involves so many things. I would not rely solely on essences for a problem like this. EFT, or Emotional Freedom Technique, can really help, as can hypnosis, counseling, etc. If you take a self-love essence while undergoing any of these therapies, you will see much faster results. But, try to work with a therapist who is familiar with essences and can help you through the emotional roller coaster you will be going through. Essences are powerful catalysts and will bring up feelings and emotions that will need to be dealt with. They can bring up bad memories-such as times as a child when you were made to feel unloved or stupid. When you can get through these emotions, give up the pain they bring, you will be able to finally love and accept yourself the way you are. This can change your life.
There are essences that help with releasing bad memories (but keeping the good ones). These essences can be great for someone who keeps going over the past. If you decide this type of essence is for you, then I would also take an essence geared to moving forward in life. This way you release the past and look forward to your new, bright future.
You might decide that you actually aren�t too hard on yourself, and don�t really need essences for that department, but you are just not satisfied with how your life is going right now. If so, there are essences that will help to bring enthusiasm and make ordinary moments into extraordinary experiences! These essences are fun to work with and explore. They help you appreciate little things and truly enjoy even minor circumstances. In working with these types of essences I have found that instead of just smiling at a new baby, at how cute they are, I actually now look at them with wonder at the life they represent! I now appreciate the little details in my daily life as they seem to represent so much more. I see a friendly comment by a stranger not just as something nice, but as the love it truly represents. These kinds of essences can really �wake up� your life.
And, if you are truly happy with yourself, but are still seeking a loving partner to share your life with, there are many essences to help bring new love into your life. Again, you need to be prepared for what this can mean. It might mean letting go of all past loves before being open enough to really accept a new love. A client of ours started taking our Mate Magnet and began running into all her old boyfriends! She would meet them in stores, they would call her out of the blue, just to see how she was doing, and one even wrote her a letter thanking her for how much she had done for him! It was hard to figure out at first. We thought perhaps one of these gentlemen was coming back into her life as her �new� love. But they would just come and go, sometimes only visiting for a few minutes. It wasn�t until later that we realized they were just coming by so she could have closure with them. Once she got past those ex-boyfriends, she was ready when the new man came into her life. They are happy together and the issues that she use to bring into the past relationships do not even seem to come up in this relationship. It�s as if, by letting go of the old boyfriends, she�s open to a totally new experience now. This might not happen to you, but at least now you will be prepared to expect anything when you start working with essences.
Rene Votta: Renee Votta, together with Deb Galerneau, are shamans, flower essence medicine makers, herbalists and teachers/healers. They hold a free monthly energy healing clinic, give lectures and classes on various healing techniques and own White Shemn Texan Native Flower Essences. They can be reached at [email protected] , by phone at (830) 624-2795 or at PO Box 2323 Universal City, TX 78148