Love is the greatest gift. We give it, without hesitation, to family, friends, pets, and even strangers. So why then, is it so difficult to love ourselves? We are so hard on ourselves, harder than we would ever be on someone else. We say things to ourselves like, �why did I say something so stupid last night�, or �I�m so fat� ore �I�ll never be able to do this� or even �I hate myself�. When someone else makes a mistake, we forgive and forget, but for ourselves we continue to go over and over our mistake, re-blaming ourselves each time.

We don�t see ourselves clearly. We might be beautiful in our spouse�s eyes, or our friends, but when we look in the mirror we see that our nose is too big, our hair isn�t model perfect, our skin has some wrinkles, or worse, that we are just ugly. We judge ourselves by impossible standards. This Valentine�s Day, lets give ourselves a gift-the gift of self-love.

Make a promise now that you will spend each day loving yourself. When you get up in the morning, give yourself a big hug. When you brush your teeth, and each time you go to the bathroom, look into your eyes in the mirror and tell yourself �I�m a good person, pretty (or handsome) and fun to be around� Substitute �you�re� instead of �I� if it is easier for you-say �you�re a good person, pretty and fun to be around� if you can�t bring yourself to say �I am -�. We all know people that just can�t bring themselves to be nice to themselves, or love themselves. How sad, but flower essences can really work miracles in this situation.

During the day think of some accomplishment you have done in the past. It could even be something from your childhood, if you can�t think of anything recent. Think about it and get that good feeling inside and let that feeling wash over you. Revel in it. YOU did something so good, it makes you happy, satisfied, and fulfilled. Remember that feeling throughout the day.

Do something special for yourself. Pamper yourself with some small thing. We�ve all read the articles that give examples on little, inexpensive things you can do for yourself-rent your favorite movie, take 10 minutes of quiet time with a good cup of tea, watch a sunset, meditate, light some scented candles when you take a bath. Little things can mean a lot when you do them just for you.

There are many essences out there that can help. You need to search through the essence companies and find one that speaks to you. You might try something for self-acceptance. This would be a good way to start, because once we can accept ourselves, we can then start loving ourselves. If we accept that we make mistakes, that we aren�t perfect, and (with the essences help) stop blaming ourselves for our problems, then we can begin to love and respect ourselves. Accepting anything is the first step towards loving it.

You might try an essence for joy. Just having joy in your life will give you a whole new outlook. You will be much more tolerant of others, including yourself, if your heart is filled with joy and happiness.

There are essences specifically for self-love. These are powerful essences and will probably take some time to work. It�s the rare person that will take a self-love essence for a day or two, and suddenly feel like they are happy with who they are. Because self-loathing involves so many issues an essence that will counter-act this has to be strong and will take time to help you get through all the layers that make up self-hatred. You might want to start with a forgiveness essence first. This will allow you to forgive yourself, and to forgive the ones that made you feel like you don�t deserve love. Once you have forgiven the people in your life that made you doubt your self-worth, it will be easier to love yourself. (And you do deserve love.) Then you can move on to self-love essences.

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